A Positive Change

So by now we've all seen the suicides in the media, brought on by bullying. Most celebrities are making "It gets better" videos and posting them as a source of comfort for these kids. I personally think it's fantastic. The videos,the suicides are horrific, and my heart goes out to the families left behind. When tragedies like these happen, it's hard to see a silver lining, but even in these dark circumstances there are some. Before I get into the thing that inspired this blog I'd like to mention something related to these stories that is a victory in the fight against suicide. I guess T.I was in Atlanta, when he got wind of a potential "jumper". T.I decided he wanted to go to the scene and talk to this person. The person who was ready to kill himself, came down because T.I wanted to talk to them. He saved their life. And when you think about it, that's all people want, is to know they matter, and that some one cares. Well Done T.I. Now what actually prompted this blog is Perez Hilton. This string of suicides has been something he's felt strongly about, and he's been pushing, anti bullying. He's had to look himself in the mirror, and realize, it's time to practice what you preach. He's come to the realization that he, himself, is a a bully, and are teaching people who visit his site to be a bully. Last night the final post on Perezhilton.com was this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glRZpHuGj6Q&feature=player_embedded#!

In a nutshell he's owning up to what he's done in the past and looking to be better in the future. Believe him or not, it's up to you, I know I've recently seen a difference in his reports. What this video did (and the appearance on Ellen)have done to me is make me look at myself...could I be a kinder person? Probably, I think most people could really. But if Perez comes through or not, at this point it doesn't matter to me. I don't think I'm an awful person, but it's pushed me to want to be BETTER. I remember growing up, I'd hear people say "I've done my good deed for the day"...like you were supposed to do one everyday, and as a child, I tried to do one a day, these days, no one seems to have that mentality it seems. So I think I'd like to get back to that child like state, where I try and do something to brighten some one else's day. If you've taken the time to read this, maybe it's something you'll think about too. :)

Friends with kids...

For starters I want to thank Jane for posting this
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000717438391&success=1#!/photo.php?fbid=162617177088360&set=a.162617007088377.43688.150180158332062

Hopefully that link worked. In a nutshell it was a like ask the editor, this woman, who had no kids was asking why it was that her friend never had time for her. Anyway some one commented on Jane's post that people without kids have no clue...whoa whoa whoa! If you're a real friend and you've spent time with these kids, yeah I think we may have a clue. We don't get what goes on every day, but a REAL friend gets it, you're occupied 24/7. BOTH or my closest friends I grew up with have kids. We all live in different places in the Maritimes. One lives back in our hometown, I only get to talk to her once a month maybe, she doesn't even hit up FB! I get it, she can't drop everything like she could when we were 14, in fact there have been times I've had her on the phone and been told "Nancy I gotta go, Aerianna just figured out how to get her diaper off"...yeah that was a fun night I bet. The other lives in Oromucto (neat how that worked out) so yeah I get a chance to see her and talk to her more often (they moved the computer out to the living room so she can watch him and fb at the same time). I've spent time with them, son included, really as her friend, meeting her husband and child, the two most important people in her life, kind of matters. While I ADORE Vance, a day with him, I'm tired so I can only imagine what Melissa is feeling...If I'm sick or over tired, I can call in sick to my job...Melissa doesn't get sick days...neither does Lisa. I'm not in the situation where I live it, but I am a good enough friend to understand why Melissa has delayed responses on FB, or why Lisa isn't calling me daily. Life changes, mine has too, and we've all adapted so we can stay in each other's lives. The problem with that story isn't the one with the kids, she's doing the best she can, the problem is the one who doesn't have kids, she needs to make an effort too...

Rachel Ray Meets Martha Stewart...all tastes good to me

I had a weekend this past weekend. Enjoyed it SO much. Saturday got together with a friend of mine, Ally, who I hadn't gotten out with in a while, so that was a freakin blast. We grabbed coffee and did some shopping, hit up East point, we enjoy Christmas Discounters together and this was our first chance to go together this year (my third trip :P). After that I went home chucked together a roast beef dinner and had some of our friends over. Then I hit up Canterbury for the live to air. If you're able to come to Canterbury on Saturday nights, you should SO come out, it's a total blast AND the music is awesome. IF you can't, then make sure you're tuned it, you'll get the music anyway! Sunday, I was pumped I bought comfy pants on my shopping trip, because I wore them all day and it was awesome! I took off the Rachel Ray hat and threw on the Martha Hat. Made Pickles, which had to happen one day. Pickles are my favorite food on the planet, I'm surprised it took me this long, first time ever. Also made a cake, which I can count on one hand how many times I've done that. The stuff was on sale so I went for it. I'm a solo act this coming weekend, I have a feeling those new pants will get a workout! I only changed for the first time this morning out of them :P. Well my weekend while eventful looks boring to most...W/E I need my damn coffee, I'm back to work :P